The original poster’s (OP) son has been engaged to Peggy for five months and they are ready to get married. According to their culture, he and the bride’s father will share the costs of the wedding. Peggy’s father offered $10,000 initially but OP felts a total budget of $20,000 was too extravagant. He decided to give $5,000 so Peggy’s father did the same.
His Son Was Disappointed
His son said there was no way they would be able to have a wedding in under $10,000, but he and Peggy would pay for the rest of the costs.
He Was Grateful for Any Help
He still expressed gratitude and didn’t whine, complain or ask for more money.
OP Argued His Wedding Was Cheaper
OP still carried on and said that after “haggling and dealing” his own wedding came out to $7,000.
His Son Argued It Was a Long Time Ago
His son also argued that OP’s wedding was 40 years ago and costs are much different now.
Prices are High
His son outlined some of the costs and said that the cheapest venue he could find will cost $5,000 and the food will cost $2,500 or $25 per head.
OP Feels Hurt
Although his son thanked him for his contribution, OP still feels hurt that his son felt like he wasn’t giving him enough money.
His Son Didn’t Like His Suggestions for Food
He suggested to his son that he order pizza and sub sandwiches for the wedding but his son looked at him like he was crazy.
He Can’t Reduce the Other Costs
He also suggested they offer less for the decorator and photographer but his son told him that wasn’t the way it works.
OP Still Thinks They Are Spoiled
OP thinks his son and fiancé are looking for the “best of the best.” In OP’s mind they should still be able to have a wedding within $10,000.
He Ended the Conversation
His son again thanked him for the money and OP says he basically told him to leave.
OP Complained to His Wife
His wife told him he is being a “stick in the mud” and it’s his son’s only wedding. But OP’s friends agree with him.
Many Readers Believe OP is Wrong
Many readers believe that OP is out of touch with reality and the cost of things.
“Your son was incredibly gracious but you had to keep pushing, he even thanked you. Do you pay the same price for gas, food, clothes etc like 40 years ago? Do u live under a rock.”
“40 years ago my father bought a house for 20,000. It recently sold it for £600,000. Even if everything else you said was reasonable – at least work out the comparative value of 10k and don’t judge your son for his choices if he is happy to foot the rest himself, that’s up to him.”
Parents Don’t Understand Inflation
Many readers believe that OP’s son handled the financial arrangement with grace despite his father being stubborn and completely lacking any understanding of inflation.
“$7,000 in 1983 is about $24.5k now, so by your logic you should be giving him $12k, not $5k or $10k.
Why is OP Feeling Like a Victim?
Obviously you aren’t obligated to give him any money, but he kindly accepted the $5k you offered and you had no place to then berate him about how he was overspending, and you have no reason to “feel hurt” over this.”
All Boomers Don’t Think Alike
“Please don’t paint all boomers with this same brush. Some of us actually live in the real world and are fully aware if how times have changed. OP is being ridiculous and is appallingly out of touch to think prices haven’t changed in 40 years. I’m not denying that there are definitely boomers with this stuck in the past mindset, but there are a good many of us who acknowledge times have changed, things are more expensive, it’s a different world. He must be utterly blind to his everyday life, ffs. Doesn’t he use a computer and a smart phone every damn day? Doesn’t he pay for gas, food, and clothing?
From one boomer to another, OP, open your damn eyes and stop being willfully obtuse and ignorant.”
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