He Planned to Propose on Their Romantic Getaway But His Girlfriend Brought Her Friends Along and is Always With Them. Should He Still Propose?

Couples usually look forward to getting away together and spending quality time while enjoying a vacation. Life can be hectic with careers, and other obligations, so many people look forward to short trips where they can focus on each other. Romantic getaways are also a way for many lovers to set the scene for a proposal. 

He Wanted to Celebrate with His Girlfriend

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The original poster (OP) and his girlfriend have been dating for five years. OP planned a vacation primarily to celebrate this milestone.

He Planned a Vacation

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OP planned this trip several months in advance while always keeping his girlfriend in the loop. They agreed to a Colorado skiing trip.

He Was Planning to Propose

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OP had secretly planned to propose at the end before coming home.

She Invited Her Friends Without Asking

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5 days before the trip, his girlfriend Sarah told OP she invited two friends to meet them in Colorado.

He Was Upset

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OP was upset as she knew it was an anniversary trip, so clearly, it was supposed to be just the two of them. He told her he wasn’t happy about it.

She Didn’t Care

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Sarah insisted her friends had already made plans to come and wouldn’t back out. She was excited to be going on the trip with her friends. 

He Went on the Trip Anyway

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OP let it go and carried on with the trip. He still expected there would be enough private time for him to propose. However, that didn’t happen.

She Spent the Entire Time with Her Friends

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Instead, Sarah was with her friends the entire time, and OP had no personal time with her. 

He Became Frustrated and Left

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After three days of no-alone time with Sarah, OP decided to leave and go home. He told Sarah why he was leaving, and her friends ganged up on him because he was ruining the fun.

His Girlfriend Thinks He’s Wrong

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Sarah thinks OP is a jerk for making her pick between him and her friends. OP insists he has never had issues with her friends or interfered with her spending time with them before.

She’s Being Unfair

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Sarah was fully aware that this was meant to be a romantic getaway with just the two of them, and the fact that she wasn’t making an effort to spend time with him alone was unfair to OP.

Does OP Need to Reevaluate This Relationship?

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Sarah and her friends think OP overreacted and ruined the trip by leaving. He is happy to be home, relaxing, and thinking about the relationship. OP feels like Sarah was disrespectful and rude by inviting her friends and then having them gang up on him. Where does his relationship with Sarah stand now? They have been together for five years and have discussed marriage. So it wouldn’t have been entirely unexpected that he would propose. 

Readers Share Their Thoughts

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A simple question received over 10,000 upvotes (a way of approving a comment):

“You sure you still wanna propose?” 

More readers showed OP support:

“I just can’t understand why she would think that it was appropriate to invite her friends to a romantic trip firstly and secondly why she didn’t run it pass OP before doing it! What a selfish, inconsiderate, rude and ungrateful act! Then once she forced him to accept it, she leaves him out of things in favour for her friends, who then all gang up and gaslight him accusing him of ruining the holiday. How dare they?!! I’m glad that he has he’s friends with him for support to deal with these rude, selfish, ungrateful gaslighting girls. Then maybe it’s best to put the engagement on hold for now and then review the relationship in peace away from her, so you can get a better prospective.”

“You can also meet up with friends traveling to the same place without spending your whole vacation with them. So bizarre and rude of both Sarah and the friends.”

Maybe She Doesn’t Want to Get Married

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In a possible plot twist, some readers wonder if Sarah invited her friends intentionally to ruin any chance of OP proposing.

“Maybe she knew he was going to propose and doesn’t want to marry him so she invited them on purpose to ruin it.”

“I think it’s quite possible that Sarah asked the friends to come along to upset the proposal she sensed might be coming. OP’s proposal plans may not have been on quite as solid ground as he thought.”

Some Say to Break Up

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Almost everyone says it’s time to take a step back and consider ending the relationship.

“I would sit her down and go through the plans you had including the proposal. Watch the Pikachu face, and then tell her you need time apart to evaluate the relationship.”

“The OP should take a step back and rethink whether they want to commit to the GF when she purposefully disrupts plans for a romantic anniversary trip by bringing friends along and then tells OP that they are being a spoilsport by leaving when GF and her friends are having a “great time”. She marginalized them for a reason, perhaps OP should see if that was a good reason for them to break up.”

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The Outdated Facts We Learned in School That Flunked the Test of Time

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Education is one of the most important things that any child can get, but this doesn’t mean that our educational system isn’t flawed. Sometimes our schools teach us things that just aren’t true, and as time goes on and science advances, we find out that some of the so-called facts we learned in school were inaccurate.

Let’s take a look at some of the most common facts that we were taught in school which have since been proven wrong.

The Outdated Facts We Learned in School That Flunked the Test of Time

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She is engaged and has been with her fiancé for three years. She is excited to be with him but thinks she has made a mistake that could affect the relationship.

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The Most Unlikable Actors that Nobody Wants to Work With Anymore

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They may try to convince people it’s method acting. But others say that’s just them trying to get away with being a jerk. Here is a list of unlikable actors called out for being difficult on set and with other actors or extras.

The Most Unlikable Actors that Nobody Wants to Work With Anymore

Her Doctor Told Her to Lose Weight So She Asked Her Boyfriend to Make Her Healthy Meals. But He Found Out She was Sneaking Treats and Told Her to Go to the Gym. She Says He’s Fat Shaming. Is She Right?

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His doctor told the original poster (OP) two years ago that he needed to lose weight because he was pre-diabetic and at high risk of developing cardiovascular disease because of his high BMI level.

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