People who work in the wedding industry see so many weddings and different couples that they start to see the signs of either eternal bliss or an inevitable divorce. The following are red flags that wedding employees see between couples that makes them immediately believe that they will eventually divorce.
1. The Captured Photo
“Photographing the groom and you see his eyes light up when a guest arrives. You look over and it’s a cute woman in a short dress. He smiles, walks up to the woman, picks her up and swings her in his arms. Best smile I captured of the groom all day. Marriage didn’t last 6 months from what I’ve heard.”
“She could have been a lover, a best friend, or a family member. Who knows. It was just really weird to finally see his reaction, and nothing like that for his bride.”
2. The Vows
“At a wedding when the “I do’s” came, the groom said, “I guess”.
3. The Groom and Bridal Party Started Drinking at Breakfast
“They all had started drinking. It’s only 11:30am and the bridal party is half lit. The kicker? None of the bridesmaids are dressed or have their hair or makeup done. The wedding is in 30 minutes. I get 0 photos of the bridesmaids. I run to shoot the groomsmen. They are doing shots. I get some great photos of them because they’re drunk and all dressed up and feeling great.
Wedding happens and that part is fine. We are supposed to go to a nearby beach and trail for photos. This never happens because the groom is literally talking to every person in attendance in the longest receiving line situation I have ever seen. He keeps drinking. The meal happens and takes forever. The sun is about to set. I tell the couple I literally have 0 photos of them alone together and we need to go.
He says “Yeah, yeah after the speeches.”
He gets up to speak after several of his friends and his sister do 10-minute speeches and he goes on. And on. And on. Most of it has nothing to do with his new bride. 30mins into his speech and the sun has set. He finally finishes and I approach the bride. She just looks at me, defeated, and says, “You can just go home now.”
The photographer says they ran into the bride six months later and before they could even say anything she said she left him.
4. The Wedding Employee Was Hired a Third Time
“It was the third time the bride had hired me and all the guys had been carbon copies.”
5. They Argued Over Money
“When the bride and groom argued over why the grooms mother shouldn’t get all money given to them on their wedding day. Ya that was a red flag.”
6. They Omitted Names on the Wedding Invites
“Heard from a friend who did calligraphy that a bride came to get wedding invites and the usual wording of ‘bride mum and dad and groom mum and dad invite you to the wedding of bride and groom,” bride didn’t want grooms parents names on the invite. My mate did an invite mock-up, called the couple for a check and the groom lost it, because grooms parents were the ones paying for most of the wedding. They didn’t need any invites.”
7. The Bride Wanted to Pick the Cake Flavor
“Many years ago I had a side hustle doing cakes and would often get orders for wedding cakes. Long story short, the bride to be threw a full-fledged stompy-footed tantrum, locking herself in my bathroom and refused to come out because the groom was “unreasonably insisting” on having a say in what the cake flavour was going to be. Like, I’d say through the door, “Get out of my bathroom!” and all I’d get was a whiny defiant little “NoooOooooooOooooooooO!!!!!!” IIRC she was about 22.”
8. A Christmas Eve Wedding
“I ran a fairly upmarket hotel & restaurant that sometimes hosted weddings. Made a rookie error and booked in a wedding for Christmas Eve. This should have been a warning sign, as it shows a pretty significant lack of consideration for friends and family making them travel across the country on one of the most irritating days of the year, when we’d all rather be at home with family preparing for the next day. They turned up 3 hours early and the battle axe of a bride proceeded to shout at us for not being prepared, surrounded by her incredibly embarrassed but not unsurprised family.
There were various other red flags throughout the night, but the main one was when the husband got blind drunk on whiskey and asked me to go to his hotel room with him and “break him in” as a married man. I politely refused.”
9. Musician Gets Paid Ahead for Divorce Party
“I’ve actually played in a band whose leader, on the wedding day, took a deposit for the divorce party that was to follow. The groom’s mother laid it down and said “I give it six months”. Nine months later, there we were, and there she (the bride) wasn’t.”
10. The Drunk Bride and Bridesmaids
“I had heard from the wedding planner, that the bride and her bridesmaids had gone through at least 10 bottles of champagne throughout the morning, and all were ridiculously drunk. And to keep playing no matter what happens.
Well, 2 of the 3 bridesmaids fell and had trouble getting up on the way down the aisle, the bride and the maid of honor made it down the aisle, but had great difficulty. The groom basically was holding the bride up for the entirety of the ceremony, and she very loudly refused a chair. Also the flower girl looked a little green around the gills, and threw up into her basket during the vows. I guess she was either given or sneaked some champagne as well. Wedding planner said they had argued the night before over whether they were going to drink before the wedding. Groom wanted to stay sober until the reception, Bride disagreed.”
The wedding planner said when they showed up to the reception, the bride was passed out. The groom made an apology speech to the guests and got an Uber home, alone.
11. The Luxury Wedding
“I was a wedding planner for almost a decade and saw these types of couples regularly. My biggest key indicator for this was whether they cared more about the wedding day than actually being married to one another. For example, I remember one couple who really wanted an over-the-top wedding that would be good enough to be featured in a popular luxury wedding magazine. They spared no expense. They became so obsessed with this that they were even choosing members of their bridal party based on their looks rather than their relationship with them. The bride had 2 brothers, one brother looked like a model for Hugo Boss and her other brother looked a bit like fat Thor. Well, only the “hot” brother was selected to be a groomsman. Things like this caused a lot of tension between family members and fights between the couple. It was awkward a lot of the time. I knew for sure this couple wouldn’t make it for long.
Interestingly enough, the couple divorced a week before their wedding was featured in that luxury bridal magazine.”
12. Even the DJ Knew
“Wedding DJ here. Had a wedding a few years ago where the groom was a total jerk. When it was his turn to make a speech he refused to make one. When the bride’s sister begged him to please make a speech or at least just tell the bride she looks beautiful, he got up took the mic mumbled to her that she looks beautiful and sat back down.
When I left after the wedding was done, I was walking to my van with some gear and the I saw the bride sitting one side crying. Found out a few days later that the groom hit her 3 days before the wedding and he tried to hit her at the wedding again when she asked him to not drink so much and pace himself.”
The DJ found out they got divorced four months later.
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