The original poster’s (OP) best friend had a baby shower last week. She invited OP by email with a digital card and also called her to tell her about it. When OP checked the invite, she noticed there wasn’t a gift registry, which is typical with baby showers.
She Messaged Her Friend to Clarify
So OP texted her friend and asked if there was a registry to ensure she hadn’t missed it. Her friend responded, “Nope! Not about gifts for me. Just come and bring your support!” This statement implied to OP that her friend wasn’t expecting any gifts.
She Was the Only One Without a Gift
When OP attended the baby shower, she realized she was the only person who hadn’t brought a gift. OP gave her friend a nice card a couple of days before the shower telling her how happy she was for her. Since she had already given a card, she didn’t bring anything.
She Felt Awful
She felt terrible as her friend opened everything from her other friends, like diapers, bottles, baby books, and more. OP’s friend gave her a look but didn’t say anything.
She Received an Angry Message After the Party
The next day OP received a text message from her friend asking her why she didn’t give her anything, not even something small.
OP Explained
OP explained that she told her it wasn’t about the gifts, so she thought she wasn’t expected to bring anything. OP’s friend told her she was dense and became upset.
Her Friend Was Still Upset
She told OP, “You’re my best friend, but you couldn’t even do the bare minimum.”
It Was a Misunderstanding
OP told her she would have brought a gift if she hadn’t said, “It’s not about the gifts,” or if there was a registry. She says it was an honest misunderstanding and cares about her friend.
Was She Wrong?
She is reaching out to the online community to ask if she was wrong.
The Readers Respond
The response that received the most votes said that everyone was wrong in this situation.
“Your friend for brushing it off and being all like ‘don’t buy gifts FOR ME’ (a clue there) and then giving you a hard time. But OP, this is your best friend. Would you have gone to her birthday party with no gift? Any party my close friend invited me to, I would still turn up with a gift, even if it was a bottle of wine. No matter what your friend said, I still would have turned up with a gift……FOR THE BABY.”
“Friend is probably more in the wrong for pretending not to care then suddenly taking issue, but OP isn’t innocent, imo (in my opinion). Even if gifts weren’t clearly expected, you should still probably buy something for your best friend’s (I assume first) pregnancy. It’s kind of obvious. Even if OP was the only one with a gift and her assumption was right, as the best friend, I’d definitely get something, basically to say, “I care about you and thought of you.”
Her Friend Should Have Been Direct
Several readers said OP wasn’t wrong because her friend should have been direct with her.
“Bestie played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. People should say what they mean. NTA and I’ll die on this hill.”
“I go with NTA here only because OP tried to clear it up and got a signal that she thought was explicitly calling her off giving a gift. It wasn’t her job to second guess the friend’s reasoning. Maybe the friend was getting baby gear from an older sibling or cousin. Maybe the friend is super rich and super picky about using only the finest things and would never ask others to fork out for that. Maybe she hates using new items. At worst, OP misunderstood in a way that few people would.”
OP Was in an Awkward Position
“Your friend is passive-aggressive and put you in an awkward situation by being indirect (only until the confrontation!). And even if there had been a registry, she would still be TA for confronting you about your failure to bring a gift. Who does that?”
A Baby Shower is For Gift-Giving
However, several readers said OP should have known that a baby shower’s purpose is to collect gifts.
“The entire point of a baby shower is the gifts. Like actually, that’s the purpose of them – to help the new mom stock her nursery with the things she needs for the new baby. That’s why it’s called a “shower” – you are showering her with gifts. That’s also why there are no baby showers for second babies – because the mom has baby stuff already. A lot of baby showers are literally only gift openings. I can’t stress this enough – a baby shower is a gift-giving ceremony. This is, imo, common knowledge.”
“The point of a baby shower is to provide the parents with gifts the baby will need. I think that when she said it’s not about the gifts, she meant that there wasn’t any specific gift she was looking for, but any gift will do, whether it’s diapers, clothes, money donation, etc.”
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