Her Family is Calling Her Unsupportive and Selfish Because She Wants to Skip Her Brother-in-Law’s Funeral for a Taylor Swift Concert

The original poster’s (OP) 28 year-old husband recently passed away in an accident. Obviously it was a big shock to the family and a devastating loss. But when this loss collides with a dream come true, OP is put between a rock and a hard place.

Her Sister Lost Her Husband

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The unexpected and sudden loss of her brother-in-law is a huge loss for her sister who she should be supporting in her time of need.

OP is a Huge Taylor Swift Fan

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OP has been a fan of Taylor Swift since she was a child. OP says her music has gotten her through some of her hardest moments in life and is also part of her best memories. 

She Has Been to One of Her Concerts Before

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OP’s first ever concert was Swift’s Red tour. She is such a fan that she truly believes that Swift’s music helped shaped the person she is today. 

She Bought Tickets With Friends

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Taylor Swift tickets are notoriously hard to get but she and her friends were able to get them for the Eras tour. 

The Funeral and Concert are on the Same Day

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The funeral is the same day as the show. She wants to get to the stadium by 5pm at the the latest and it can take 40 to 50 minutes to get there, depending on the traffic. She also needs time to get ready.

The Timing is Tight

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She doesn’t think she can make it to the concert on time if she goes to the funeral which is scheduled for the afternoon. 

She Told Her Sister She Can’t Come

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OP told her sister that she wouldn’t be able to come to the funeral because the timing is too tight and she wouldn’t be able to make it to the stadium on time. 

Her Sister Was Furious

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Her sister was so angry she called her selfish and other names. 

Her Parents are Angry Too

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Her parents are calling her unsupportive and selfish for not coming as well. 

The Readers Respond

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Many readers said OP can easily make both events work. The majority also agree that she is only thinking about herself and not her sister’a feelings.

She Can Wear the Same Outfit

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Readers pointed out that her focus on getting ready instead of attending the funeral was unnecessary and selfish. Many said she can wear the same black dress or skirt to the concert, it makes no difference. This will save her time for getting ready and she can leave directly from the funeral. 

“So she is missing the funeral to give herself more time to get ready basically. Yikes! That is one self-absorbed sister!”

Is She Making Excuses?

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The concert is assigned seating and many readers said that Swift doesn’t come out until an hour or two later after her opening acts. So worst case, she would miss some of the opening act. One reader said if OP has been to the Red tour then she should already know this. 

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