In 2020, OP (31) and her husband (33) faced financial challenges, leading to changes in their lifestyle. This story unfolds as they navigate their new circumstances, including a spa-related dispute that escalates into a financial showdown.
OP is the Bread Winner
OP works and her husband lost his job almost two years ago so now she is the sole income earner.
They Cut Their Expenses
OP says they moved into a smaller apartment and had to sell many things. She says they also had to give up most of their “costly” habits.
He Won’t Quit One Expensive Habit
OP reveals her husband’s costly weekly habit of visiting an upscale spa for massages, which adds up to a hefty $1,000 per month.
OP Said to Find a Cheaper Spa
Amid financial strains, OP proposes a more budget-friendly spa alternative. However, her husband insists on the luxury spa, citing his attachment to a specific masseuse.
Financial Stress and New Responsibilities
As the sole breadwinner, OP grapples with the financial burden, especially with a baby on the way. She urges her husband to cut back on spa expenses.
He Refused to Change Spas
Despite OP’s pleas, her husband refuses to reduce his spa visits. The financial strain continues to grow.
She Went Shopping for Baby Essentials
OP decided to go shopping for baby essentials.
Breaking Point: A Maxed-Out Credit Card
OP’s financial nightmare intensifies when she discovers her husband has been using her credit card to fund his spa sessions, maxing out the card without her knowledge.
She Was Humiliated
A trip to the store turns humiliating when OP’s maxed-out credit card leaves her unable to purchase essential items for their impending baby. She has to return everything, adding to her stress.
They Had a Big Argument
Furious, OP confronts her husband about the hidden credit card expenses. She feels deceived and embarrassed by his actions.
She Wants Her Money Back
OP insists that her husband repay the $1,000 he spent on her credit card, but he refuses, leading to a heated argument. During their argument, OP calls her husband irresponsible, and he accuses her of playing the victim. Tensions rise as they confront their financial differences.
He’s Giving Her the Silent Treatment
After the heated argument, her husband gives OP the silent treatment as tensions in their marriage escalate. OP continues to demand that her husband repay the money spent on her credit card. The financial dispute strains their relationship further.
He Refuses to Repay Her
In a shocking twist, her husband claims that since they are married, her money is technically his, and he shouldn’t have to repay her. OP grapples with this unexpected declaration. He insists that they share the financial stress equally, highlighting his role as a future parent and expressing frustration with how she’s handling their financial difficulties.
Navigating Parenthood and Financial Struggles
The couple faces a challenging decision: how to balance their growing family’s needs with their strained finances.
The Readers Respond
The readers all responded in support of OP. Many recognized that her situation is dire with a baby on the way and urged her to take swift and harsh actions to protect herself.
He’s Stealing From Her
Many readers said that OP’s husband is actually stealing from her and call him a thief.
“He stole from you to buy a luxury. Immediately cut him off from all access to your money and credit. Don’t give him any money at all. And seriously reconsider living with him since he steals from you.”
Is it Really Just Massages?
Many readers believe that $1,000 a month cannot be spent on just one massage a week. People are convinced that he is paying for indecent encounters or drugs.
“I hate to jump to conclusions but there’s definitely something off here. No one needs a professional weekly $250 massage at the one specific place with a specific person to the point they are willing to steal 1k from their pregnant spouse and unborn child. He’s either getting sex out of it or drugs or something else.”
She Needs to Cut Him Off ASAP
Everyone suggested that OP quickly cut her husband off from her money.
“OP you’re not TA and pls he literally stole from your unborn child, cut him off from finances and think really hard about your marriage.”
“Yeah because he knows he can spend your money. He’s using you…force him..cut him off from your finances. He’s acting like a child.”
“OP, your husband is selfish and due to his financial irresponsibility you are basically a married single mother. I would consider cutting off the grown baby and focus on having a smooth pregnancy.”
She Doesn’t Want to Waste Her Inheritance But Her Husband is Expecting Her to Pay for Everything Including His Family Dinner
The original poster (OP) recently inherited a large sum of money from her mother. She hasn’t decided what to use it for yet but her husband seems to have other plans.
His Parent’s Choose Fancy Restaurants When It’s His Turn to Pay the Bill But Will Choose to Eat at a Food Court When It’s His Brother’s Turn to Pay Because His Brother Has a Girlfriend and They Want Him to Save Money
The original poster (OP), a 25-year-old, has a brother Paul. They’d often go out to eat with their parents. Whenever it was OP’s turn to pay, the parents chose an expensive restaurant, but always chose a cheap restaurant when it was the brother’s turn to pay. OP called their parents out on it, and ended up wondering if they were wrong.
She is Confused About Suing Her Boyfriend to Pay for Her Medical Bill After He Consumed a Peanut Product and Kissed Her While Knowing She is Deathly Allergic
The original poster (OP) has a terrible peanut allergy, and even though her boyfriend knew about it, he continued to eat peanuts. One day, he caused OP to have a serious allergic reaction which required hospitalization. Even though it was his fault, he would not pay for the money. OP ended up suing her boyfriend for the medical bills, and now wonders if she was in the wrong.
Her Boyfriend is Furious that She Sent Him a Bill for Half the Cost of the Cremation for Their Dog that He Insisted on Doing But Refused to Pay For
The original poster (OP), the girlfriend, had a dog along with her boyfriend. They always split the bills 50/50 for everything, but her boyfriend refused to help pay medical bills for the dog. The dog died, and OP sent half the bill for the cremation to her boyfriend, stating that it was only fair but he doesn’t agree.
Her Boyfriend Got a Job 2 Hours Away So She Takes the Train and Stays One to Two Weeks a Month and He Now Wants Her to Split the Rent and Bills Even Though She Pays for the Train and Groceries
The original poster’s (OP) boyfriend told her that she should be paying for half of his rent and bills since she spends about half her time at his place. But OP says she never chose to have the boyfriend move to a city where life is far too expensive, and that she should not have to pay anything. Who is in the wrong?