Whether homeschool is suitable for a child or not is entirely up to their situation and the environment they are in. Parents choose to homeschool for various different reasons, such as their children being excessively bullied, having special needs, schools teaching below their standards, schools focusing too much on gender identity, etc. The following is a list of reasons why some people believe that homeschooling is bad for kids.
Poor Social Skills
“My college years was basically my high school experience because of this. I was so far behind in social skill, study skills, math skills, and life experience. First time I saw an actual science textbook, my mind was blown.”
Poor Decision Making
“I hired a homeschooled kid once when I managed a retail store. For a year, she was the most conscientious and courteous clerk I had—bubbly, hard working, whip smart, just genuinely a nice human being. She turned 18 and within six months of being on her own was married, pregnant, and ghosted. She had no sense of how to navigate the social interactions of everyday life that weren’t in some way hierarchal. Without someone to hold her hand at every step of the way, she was lost.”
Not Understanding the Concept of Social Friction or Bullying
“Had a friend in college who grew up homeschooled, and by all accounts was academically fine. They’d done enough church and social activities that she was more or less socially adapted. But she’d never experienced those bad parts of school and it was evident. Another friend and I were commiserating about being victims of a common form of middle school bullying, and while it was certainly hurtful, her reaction was over the top, because she couldn’t comprehend that tweens would just kinda be mean to each other. Other descriptions of childhood cruelty flew over her head; she couldn’t understand how they qualified as bullying or why anyone would be upset by them. As a result, she was honestly kind of prone to middle school level bullying herself, both as a victim and as a perpetrator. She’d say incredibly unkind things thinking they were funny or neutral, think people who were being mean to her face were being friendly, and get overly invested in clique politics when everyone else had really moved past that.”
Do we Need Some “Social Friction
“As an adult, I utilize some aspects of that in business and that has helped propel my professional career. Kids can be absolute jerks. And I do not condone bullying, but I will say that it’s healthy for kids to have some elements of social-friction, because (to your point), they’re not going to understand how to cope with it as adults living on their own. It’s part of developing healthy coping mechanisms.”
They Have No Filter
“I have a family member who homeschools their kids. They are rude without realizing it. I’m so afraid when they get out on their own that their mouths are going to write a check their butts can’t cash.”
No Teamwork Skills
“Losing in sports or at competitions and having to learn about teamwork and hard work and that it still doesn’t mean we win at the end and how to handle losing without poor sportsmanship.”
Not at the Same Level as Their Peers
“My mother switched schools right after I was accepted to higher math classes (kids doing algebra while I was to go for pre-calculus). I had to take the same level of classes as my peers after the switch and this staggered all of my following classes. Once I got to college it was hard trying to find a reason to push myself when I was essentially taught to put minimal effort and succeed.”
Their Parents Were Poor Teachers
“She (his cousin) was a terrible teacher (she barely passed high school herself and hasn’t worked a day in her life), she would mostly drop them off at her mom’s and go around town having fun, or would drag them to theme parks and stuff. She finally decided to put them back in school this year and they tested two whole years behind and have to start there. Poor kids. I had the chance to visit with one of them recently and he was just a very sweet kid. His mom did him a disservice.”
They Don’t Understand Pop Culture or Their Peers’ Interests
“Dude was dressed like he was going to church in the 1960s. Cargo jacket, button down shirt with every button done, and khaki pants. I kept trying to make conversation and he had zero knowledge of any sort of pop culture. I wasn’t gonna be like “so are are you religious at all?” but I don’t think he got out much.”
They Only Understand Their Parent’s Perspective
“I had a little boy last year who believed all of this because his mother taught him “science” class using the Bible. When I demonstrated how everything he knew was wrong over the course of the year, I think it messed him up.
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The sky is blue because it reflects the oceans.
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The Earth is flat because the Bible talks about the “four corners of the land” or something.
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The Earth is only 6,000 years old.
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Humans and dinosaurs lived together 6,000 years ago.
I felt really bad for him while teaching him the truth.”
They Feel Immature
“I was homeschooled all the way through and at 38 I still feel super immature because of it. I and my best friend who was also homeschooled never tell anyone we know about it because it feels so terrible and shameful.
“I always think of my teenage years as what was actually my twenties because that’s when I did all the things at that high schoolers did.”
It Can Be Lonely
“I was homeschooled until college. I have no friends from before I went to college. I was angry all the time, depressed to the point of suicidal, and I wouldn’t have admitted it, very lonely. When I got into college I realized I didn’t know how to smile properly. What I thought was me smiling, wouldn’t register to most people as even a grin. I had to practice in the mirror like a sociopath. I was the creepy guy at first in college, because I couldn’t read people and had to put some real effort into learning.”
Understanding Social Cues
“I was homeschooled until college as well, and it took me a few years to get what social cues were.”
“I was homeschooled from 4th grade on and it took me years just to get to the point where I was capable of having conversations with people. Still have intense social anxiety as a result of not understanding social cues. I feel like the weirdo in whatever group I’m in.”
Not Prepared for the World When its Tough
“People need exposure to life. Social experiences. They need to be awkward in public. They need to learn that while it’s ok to be you, some people are gonna be jerks about it and you need to be ready for that. That the world doesn’t cater to you. So, so many things you just don’t learn in your living room.”
She’s Been Parentified Since She Was 14 and is Now Being Shamed for Going to College Out of State on a Scholarship and Abandoning Her Sister and Baby
The original poster (OP) lives with her twin sister named Mary. They don’t have any other siblings and her parents both work full-time.
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