Her Husband Secretly Quit His Job Two Months into Their Marriage
In this story, we meet a married couple, OP (the original poster) (30) and her husband (32), who have been facing serious challenges in their relationship due to financial issues and miscommunications.
OP Makes More Money
OP and her husband start their marriage with her having a stable job and him earning less. They agree on financial arrangements where OP pays rent and bills while he contributes to other couple expenses.
He Was Living With His Parents Before Marriage
Since his income was low, her husband was living with his parents. After they got married, they decided he would move in with OP and she would continue to pay.
He Started Working Less
As their marriage progresses, OP’s husband starts cutting down his work hours without prior discussion. He justifies this by assuming OP’s income can support both of them, which initially seems reasonable.
He Said He Would Do More Housework
OP was ok with it but was a little upset that he just assumed she would be fine with him working less. Still, the arrangement felt fair so she accepted it.
He Started Doing Less Housework
OP’s husband’s reduction in work hours results in him spending more time at home. However, instead of helping with household chores, he starts indulging in leisure activities, leaving OP with most of the responsibilities.
She Started Doing Everything
OP says he did some work around the house initially, but then started spending the majority of his time going out to the bar, playing video games, etc. It was to the point where OP was the one both working and doing the cooking, cleaning and other household chores.
He Said He Lost His Job
Two months into their marriage, OP’s husband claims he was laid off due to circumstances beyond his control. OP expects him to actively job hunt while she covers their expenses.
She’s Feeling Overwhelmed
OP steps up to pay for everything, from bills to his nights out, assuming he’s actively looking for work. However, she starts to feel overwhelmed by the growing financial burden.
The Truth is Revealed and She is Furious
During an argument, OP discovers that her husband had quit his job without her knowledge and never searched for another one. The revelation shatters her trust and leaves her furious.
She Told Him to Get Out
In response to the deception, OP tells her husband he can’t come back home until he finds a job. This decision marks a turning point in their relationship.
OP Looked for Support from Her In-Laws
OP’s in-laws, while understanding to some extent, believe she’s being harsh and labels her a jerk for her stance. The situation becomes more complex as family members get involved.
She Only Sees Him Outside the House
OP and her husband’s relationship is strained. They have sporadic interactions, but her husband doesn’t return home. OP begins questioning the future of their marriage.
She Stopped Paying for Him Completely
OP stopped paying for everything and set some real boundaries.
He Says She’s the One Mistreating Him
OP says he has been calling her the jerk for “doing” this to him. OP is starting to wonder if she made a mistake.
The Readers Respond
The readers overwhelmingly showed their support to OP.
Doesn’t She See the Red Flags?
Some readers said there were so many red (marinara) flags in the last few months alone.
“Good grief the amount of marinara here is ridiculous.
He cut down his hours w/o discussing it
He quit his job and lied about it
He spends his time partying with his buddies and having you foot the bill
He lied about job searching
He won’t help keep up the household.
Sounds like only seeing him in passing is best. Don’t let him back into the house unless you just want a mooch, lazy, roommate that won’t pay rent.”
His Parents Don’t Even Want Him
“The only reason his parents are upset with OP are because they finally got him out of their house and now he’s back. OP should take this as a sign and tell him to stay there!” Another reader chimed in “This right here. They passed the OP a dud and knew it, now they are upset but they have him back.”
Don’t Let Him Back Without a Postnuptial Agreement
“Document it all, including the intentional quitting and not looking for work. His parents now supporting him, whatever you can. Get a postnuptial if possible.”
“It’s only been a year and I think OP won’t have to pay anything as it hasn’t been enough time. The postnuptial if he wants to come back should be a requirement as well as therapy and having a job. If he can’t do that and still wants to be a teenager cut the cord and return to sender.”
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She Pays Her Kids $10 a Day For Completing Chores But Her Ex-Husband Got Angry When She Deducted Money From Her 12 Year Old Son Who Refused to Complete “Girl Chores”
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She Left Her Husband Alone for Two Hours While He Was Sick with the Flu to Attend a Family Birthday Party and Now He’s Angry She Abandoned Him
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She Caught Her Babysitter Discussing Religion with Her Daughter When She Explicitly Told Her Not to When She Was Hired But Her Husband Doesn’t Want to Fire Her Even Though She Was Warned
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