She and her husband have large families and occasionally host gatherings with food, drinks, and good conversation. She’s responsible for cooking, but her close family often helps. There would be someone there who she didn’t recognize on a couple of occasions. Whether it was a distant cousin or a new boyfriend or girlfriend of a family member, she didn’t mind them coming. At this gathering, her husband’s uncle brought his friend, who he was meeting for the first time.
However, a problem arose because she did not receive advanced notice, and she is reaching out to the online community to see if she was wrong. After she finished cooking and while she was setting the table, the uncle’s friend came to ask her if she had made anything without gluten. She apologized and said that she didn’t. The friend then asked her if she could make something to eat that was gluten-free. She told her she had been cooking all day and was exhausted and just wanted to sit down and relax.
The friend became defensive and said other guests at the gathering had to be gluten intolerant. But she insisted that nobody in her family had problems with gluten. If she had known in advance that she needed a gluten-free dish, she would have made it earlier. The guest yelled at her and said she ruined her evening and would never return.
The uncle told her that she should just make his friend something to eat and get it over with. But she stood her ground and refused because she didn’t want to get his friend sick in case her meal wasn’t wholly gluten-free, plus she was too tired to cook more. The uncle and his friend left the house, and her husband became angry with her. He says she should have just made something because now everyone is upset, and his uncle will probably never return. She is reaching out to the online community to ask if she was wrong to not make the friend a separate meal.
Many readers said the uncle should have told them he was bringing a friend who had dietary restrictions in advance.
“If you’re not able to eat something, you should’ve informed the person cooking beforehand. The entitlement!”
“Reading this just pissed me off so bad for OP. Everyone coming up to you telling you to cook for her should’ve done it then since it was such a minuscule task to them. And I’m sure there had to have been some things she could have found to eat that were already made that didn’t have gluten. The entitlement is sickening. Also, have these people never heard that no one sits down to eat until the cook has sat down to eat? Unreal!”
Several people with celiac disease said they would never trust someone to be able to cook a completely gluten-free meal for them and always take their food.
I don’t think someone with celiac disease would demand someone cook for them on such short notice. Even if OP had obliged and cooked a meal with gluten-free ingredients, what about cross-contamination? She’d probably have to deep-clean the entire kitchen to ensure it was truly safe for someone with celiac to eat.”
“Yup, my celiac girlfriend most definitely won’t eat just anyone’s food, even if it’s “gluten-free.”
Some readers felt that the person in the wrong the most was her husband, who didn’t support her.
“OP’s husband sounds entitled and ungrateful too, not only his uncle and the uncle’s girlfriend. The nerve of accusing OP of spoiling the dinner she spent all day cooking while he didn’t do anything… Honestly, I believe we teach people how to treat us, and OP needs to use the attitude she got with her husband’s uncle’s girlfriend with her husband too. His behavior was outrageous, and he deserved to be in the dog house.”
“I would have told him he knows where the stove is and where the refrigerator is. I’m done!”
Many say she was justified in worrying that she would make the friend sick if she couldn’t make a completely gluten-free meal.
“Also, not everyone can cook for intolerances. Some people are too frightened to harm someone, so they just wouldn’t do it. Some people don’t understand some allergies. Also, who’s to say that she had any gluten-free food in her kitchen? Things you wouldn’t think of have gluten in it like sauces, condiments, etc.”
What do you think? Should she have cooked another meal that was gluten-free? Who is the worst offender, her, the uncle, the friend, or the husband?
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