The original poster (OP), the girlfriend, had a dog along with her boyfriend. They always split the bills 50/50 for everything, but her boyfriend refused to help pay medical bills for the dog. The dog died, and OP sent half the bill for the cremation to her boyfriend, stating that it was only fair but he doesn’t agree.
OP and Her Boyfriend Have Been Together for a Long Time
OP and her boyfriend have been together for a total of nine years. OP is a 32 year-old female and he is a 36 year-old male.
Her Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Get Married
Although they’ve been together for so long, the boyfriend always insists that he never wants to get married. He says that a marriage is as meaningless as a driver’s license.
They Got a Dog and Agreed to Pay 50/50
They both decided to get a dog, which happened three years ago. They don’t share finances, but they both agreed to pay for half of the dog’s needs. Both OP and the boyfriend paid accordingly.
The Dog Got Sick
However, all of a sudden, the dog got very sick. It appeared as though it would need life saving treatments.
OP Paid For All of the Vet Bills
For a total of four months, OP kept paying for all of the vet bills herself. Even though the deal was that they would both pay half, the boyfriend would not pay any of the vet bills.
Her Boyfriend Kept Making Excuses
For the duration of the treatment, her boyfriend kept making one excuse after another. He would either say that the treatments weren’t necessary or come up with some other excuse as to why he shouldn’t have to pay for any of the veterinary bills.
The Dog Died and OP Asked Her Boyfriend to Help Pay for the Cremation
Unfortunately, the dog ended up passing away. OP says her boyfriend was very sad for a day before he appeared to return to normal. OP was very upset with the boyfriend for never having helped with the medical bills, but when she asked him if he still wanted the dog to be cremated, he said yes.
He Refused to Pay
OP told the boyfriend how much it would cost to have the dog cremated, and she asked him to pay for half of it. He responded that he wasn’t the one getting cremated and that he shouldn’t have to pay for anything. He even went on to say that the dog was no longer alive, so it was technically not his dog anymore.
He Still Wanted His Way
Even though her boyfriend refused to pay half of the cremation costs, he still insisted that the dog be cremated. For whatever reason, the boyfriend did not want the dog to be buried.
The Dog Was Cremated and OP Sent Him Half the Bill
Respecting his wishes, OP had the dog cremated, paid for half the bell, and then sent the other half of the bill to her boyfriend. Because of the way in which the law functions where OP lived, the boyfriend was now legally obligated to pay for the bill.
OP’s Boyfriend Was Furious
The boyfriend became very upset that OP had the nerve to pull a stunt like this, as he put it.
OP’s Boyfriend Called Her Heartless
A massive argument ensued and the boyfriend said that OP was completely heartless for her actions, and that she was just being petty. The boyfriend even said that OP never loved the dog enough. OP is wondering if she is wrong for her actions.
The Readers Respond
The readers responded unanimously that the boyfriend is totally was wrong and that OP is NTA.
“NTA. Why are you with this person?”
“Not just cheap and stingy, but during a time of crisis and grief. You don’t get to see who someone really is when everything is fine and rosy. It’s when the chips are down and you’re drowning that you get to see what kind of partner you really have.”
“For me the cherry on top is still being insistent that the dog be cremated, despite the fact that he refused to pay for it, when burial at no cost to him was presented as an option.”
Is Marriage Like a Driver’s License?
What really seemed to infuriate the readers is that the boyfriend compared being married to getting a driver’s license, saying that they’re both useless and meaningless.
“I love the comparison to a driver’s license. Oh, that little old incredibly important thing?”
“It doesn’t even make sense as an argument. Is he saying he drives without a license because it’s just a piece of paper? If you don’t need to get married for a relationship to be official then you don’t need to be licensed to drive because….?”
“Hahaha love that. “Pay for my things! Oh marriage? No it’s just a piece of paper” strings partner along for a decade.”
Should OP Leave Her Boyfriend?
Another thing that the readers here seem to agree on is that OP should completely leave her boyfriend because he’s stingy, cheap, and not willing to commit.
“Dude wants the benefits of a partnership without having to actually commit.”
“It’s not that he’s cheap or stingy. It’s that he won’t even take care of his own responsibilities. OP, please never have kids with this person. NTA”
“I’d re-evaluate your relationship, cos ouch.”
He Intentionally Drove Up the Electricity Bill Because He Wanted to Prove to His Girlfriend that the Old Ugly Fireplace Was Worth Keeping
The original poster (OP) told his girlfriend that she would have to pay the whole electricity bill if she wanted to get rid of his old fireplace which acted as supplemental heating. The girlfriend agreed, but to try and get her to let him keep the fireplace anyway, because he liked it, OP started trying to run up the electricity bill.
Her Boyfriend Got a Job 2 Hours Away So She Takes the Train and Stays One to Two Weeks a Month and He Now Wants Her to Split the Rent and Bills Even Though She Pays for the Train and Groceries
The original poster’s (OP) boyfriend told her that she should be paying for half of his rent and bills since she spends about half her time at his place. But OP says she never chose to have the boyfriend move to a city where life is far too expensive, and that she should not have to pay anything. Who is in the wrong?
She Embarrassed Her Boyfriend By Asking for Separate Bills Instead of Transferring the Money to Him After Like He Asked So He Wouldn’t Look Bad In Front of the Waitress
The original poster(OP), had dinner at a restaurant with her boyfriend. At the end of their anniversary dinner she told the waitress to split the bill. The boyfriend ended up feeling embarrassed because the waitstaff likely assumed he was cheap. Was the OP in the wrong?
Her Mother Expects Her to Pay Off Her Credit Card Bill as Repayment for Raising Her But It Will Deplete Her Savings
The original poster’s (OP) mother was never responsible with money and had a huge credit card debt. OP’s mom wanted her to use her OnlyFans profits to pay off the debt, but OP refused. OP thought that her mother would never pay her back, seeing as she had a horrible track record with finances. Is OP in the wrong?
She Refuses to Use Her Inheritance From Her Mother to Pay for Medical Bills for Her Half-Sister Who Was a Result of Her Father’s Affair But He’s Giving Her the Guilt Trip
OP had a mother who left her a large inheritance when she died. The father, who cheated on the mother and had another child through the affair, came asking for money to help pay for the half-sister’s medical bills. OP refused to give them any money, and ended up feeling conflicted.