The original poster (OP) has been dating her boyfriend for two years. He has a 15 year-old daughter and she has a 6 year-old son from previous relationships.
They Recently Got Engaged
Her boyfriend just proposed to her last week. Now they are thinking about moving in together.
His First Wife Passed Away
His wife passed away five years ago when his daughter was only 10 years-old.
She Thought Some Things Were Strange
She thought some things were weird like her fiancé’s daughter sleeps in the master bedroom.
She Asked Him Why
She asked him why his daughter has the master bedroom and he brushed it off and said the house was “hers” so it was normal that she slept there. He provided no further explanation and OP thought it was not her business to inquire further.
They Discussed Living Together
OP told her fiancé she wants to move in and live together before they decide on a wedding date.
They Will Have to Move Eventually
He said they could move in to the house and live together for a while but they would have to get their own house eventually because it’s his daughter’s house.
She Became Upset
OP told him it wasn’t fair he called it his daughter’s house when they are supposed to marry and he was going to adopt her son. So the house should belong to everybody and not just his daughter.
She Refuses to Give Up the Master Bedroom
She told OP that she wanted his daughter to move out of the master bedroom because he and OP should be sharing it.
He Started to Get Nervous
He said that the house really belonged to his late wife and when she passed away the house became his daughter’s.
He’s Been Saving for a House
He told OP he has enough money for around 60% of a new house but they would have to pay the rest off together.
OP Was Shocked
OP was shocked that he couldn’t ask his daughter for the house because she was only 15 and he is the father, but he refused.
She Was Furious He Didn’t Tell her Before
OP was angry that he didn’t tell her the truth before and called him a jerk. He said they would never be homeless and they still had 3 to 4 years before his daughter left for college. He told OP he always knew he would be moving out one day which is why he saved his money.
She Asked What Else Belonged to His Daughter
OP asked her fiancé what other things belonged to his daughter. He said the car that OP had been driving around, the 2020 KIA was also his daughter’s and she will be taking it when she leaves to college.
She Called Him a Jerk
OP called her fiancé a jerk and took her son to her parents house.
Her Brother Couldn’t Believe Her Behavior
When she told her family her brother laughed and called her a gold digger. But she feels betrayed and that he lied to her.
The Readers Respond
Unfortunately for OP, the popular opinion is that she behaved badly.
“He told you the house belonged to his daughter. That you chose to not ask what he meant and assumed he really owned it is your own fault. You deceived yourself.
The Girl Lost Her Mother
It is her inheritance from her dead mother, and you want a share of it. The girl has already lost her mother, but that’s not enough – now you’re demanding a share of her inheritance go to people the mother never even met. How can you think that’s reasonable?”
They Should Have Discussed Money Sooner
Although he told OP that the house belongs to his daughter, he should have been more clear about what the situation was behind that.
“The house belongs to my daughter” – honestly I don’t think most folks would know what to make of that statement and should ask for a clear explanation. Yes OP’s the AH for assuming he owned the house but moreover she’s the AH for saying ‘Yes’ to a man before knowing about his financial situation, and yes he is also an AH for not telling his potential wife exactly what’s going on.”
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