She’s Been Parentified Since She Was 14 and is Now Being Shamed for Going to College Out of State on a Scholarship and Abandoning Her Sister and Baby

The original poster (OP) lives with her twin sister named Mary. They don’t have any other siblings and her parents both work full-time. 

Mary Has a Baby

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Mary got pregnant when she was 14 years-old. She couldn’t find the father to tell him she was pregnant and OP says they still haven’t seen him anywhere.

They Share a Room

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They live in a 2-bedroom apartment so when Mary had her baby, they had to share the room together. 

She Has to Help Care for the Baby

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OP’s parents worked more so they could provide for the baby so OP and Mary had to take care of the baby. 

OP Had No Social Life

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OP had no life outside of school. Her parents would demand that she go straight home to help her sister with the baby. She also had no privacy and no love or attention from her parents since the baby came. 

She Feels Alone

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OP says it took time for her to come to terms with her parents not being there for her and she often felt alone. She became resentful of Mary and her parents but never expressed it.

She Got a Job

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By age 16 she got a job so she had some time to herself outside of school and the baby. 

She Gave Them Most of Her Earnings

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Her parents coerced her to contribute almost 80% of her wages to help Mary take care of the baby. OP called herself a pushover and couldn’t say no since Mary and the baby did need the money. Her parents were only able to keep up with paying the bills, rent and car payments. 

She Told Them About College

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OP told her parents she was accepted to a very good college out of state on a near scholarship and that she was planning to go.

They Were Shocked

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OP’s parents asked how she could leave them instead of taking care of Mary’s baby. 

She Asked Why She Should Give Up Her College Dreams

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OP asked why she should stay in a shared bedroom with her sister and niece for her college years. 

The Family Argued

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OP’s parents said people make sacrifices for family. Mary jumped into the conversation and said she wouldn’t go to another state and leave a single mother alone if the roles were reversed. 

The Readers Respond

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Some savvy readers suggested OP get her niece a 23&me Ancestry DNA test.

“Get your niece a 23&me or AncestryDNA test and then download the raw file and upload to the free sites for more matches. The father doesn’t have to have tested to figure out who he based on matches. DNA detectives on Facebook and DNA search angels can help sort the matches.”

Many Readers Said She Should Start Packing

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“I hope you made the choice to go to school and enjoy college life. Your sister will learn to take care of the baby on her own. I’m sure it’s also sad to see you leave and she still at home as a single mother. But you have to do whats best for you. You getting a full ride can help the baby in the future.”

Read More: The Comforting Family Meals Boomers Grew Up Eating

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In the 50s, 60s, and 70s, traditional family meals were typically made with simple ingredients but would still vary from classic to creative. The following are examples of traditional meals that families would share when Boomers were growing up. Many of the meals are still popular today but the recipes may have a more modern twist.

The Comforting Family Meals Boomers Grew Up Eating

Mom Wonders if She Went Too Far by Showing the Kids Her Budget to Dispute Her Ex’s Claim that They Couldn’t Manage the Household Without His Money and Now the Kids are Furious

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The original poster (OP) is a single mother of two and has a strained relationship with their father. He offers very little financial support.

Mom Wonders if She Went Too Far by Showing the Kids Her Budget to Dispute Her Ex’s Claim that They Couldn’t Manage the Household Without His Money and Now the Kids are Furious

Mouth Watering Ground Beef Meals

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Whether you’re a seasoned cook or a beginner in the kitchen, these easy ground beef recipes are sure to become go-to favorites that you’ll come back to time and time again. With a little creativity and a few simple ingredients, you can whip up flavorful and hearty dishes that are perfect for any occasion.

Prepare to Cringe Gen Z as Boomers Tell Teens the Things They Aren’t Ready to Hear

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A popular online forum asking “what are teens today not ready to hear?” attracted over 25,000 comments. The older generations, the Boomers, Gen X, and maybe even the Millennials, are clearly passionate about sharing their opinions and advice with teenagers now. Here are some life lessons the older generations have left for teens to read and roll their eyes at.

Prepare to Cringe Gen Z as Boomers Tell Teens the Things They Aren’t Ready to Hear

She Pretended for Years She Couldn’t Cook So She Didn’t Have to Contribute to Her In-Laws Potlucks But Now They Discovered the Lie and the Family is Up in Arms

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The original poster (OP) is married to Mike. Mike usually does all the cooking, which works best for their family. OP says she cooks sometimes but its “very few and far between.”

She Pretended for Years She Couldn’t Cook So She Didn’t Have to Contribute to Her In-Laws Potlucks But Now They Discovered the Lie and the Family is Up in Arms

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