Mom Wonders if She Went Too Far by Showing the Kids Her Budget to Dispute Her Ex’s Claim that They Couldn’t Manage the Household Without His Money and Now the Kids are Furious

The original poster (OP) is a single mother of two and has a strained relationship with their father. He offers very little financial support.

They Have Two Kids Together

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OP shares a 13 year-old and 11 year-old with her ex. 

They Live a Frugal Life

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OP says they have to live a frugal life and all the extra money she makes goes into their college accounts or for fun weekends. 

The Dad is the Fun Parent

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The dad has them once a month only and OP says he’s considered the “fun” parent. 

He Doesn’t Pay on Time

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He owes OP child support and doesn’t pay on time but he will pay for a surprise trip to Kennywood, an amusement park. 

OP is Frustrated

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Needless to say OP is frustrated that her ex gets away with not making his payments but taking the kids out for fun instead. 

She Doesn’t Bad Mouth Her Ex

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OP says she doesn’t say anything bad about her ex to her children. But lately, he has been pushing a false narrative on the kids.

He’s Telling the Kids Lies

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Her ex has been telling the kids that without him and the money he gives OP, they wouldn’t have a home.

It Was the Last Straw

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OP says that her ex telling the kids that he is the one who pays for their home was the last straw. 

She Showed Them Her Budget

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OP pulled up her budget spread sheet which includes all the expenses her ex pays for as well. She showed the kids how he hasn’t paid child support for the last two months. 

Her Daughter Told Her Dad Off

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The kids were upset about being lied to and the oldest got into an argument with her father because she called to confirm with him. 

OP and Her Ex Got into an Argument

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OP and her ex ended up getting into an argument and he called her a jerk. She says her friends are divided on their opinions and she’s wondering if she took it too far?

Many Readers Support Her

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Many readers believe OP did nothing wrong. She showed the kids factual information and there’s nothing wrong with that. The data speaks for itself, and that’s not considered badmouthing.

“The situation sucks. But your Ex attacked. You were just defending yourself. So nope. Not the AH. He is.”

“If they’d gone on the attack and said nasty things about their ex, it would be a little more grey – but all they did was give the kids a basic, factual account of their budget breakdown so they understood the financial situation and allowed them to form their own thoughts about the subject.”

She Taught them Basic Personal Finance

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Many readers commended OP for teaching her kids basic personal finance and giving them an understanding of how she manages the finances. 

“This. Kids are old enough for Introductory Personal Finance 101. Will serve them well in future.”

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A popular online forum asking “what are teens today not ready to hear?” attracted over 25,000 comments. The older generations, the Boomers, Gen X, and maybe even the Millennials, are clearly passionate about sharing their opinions and advice with teenagers now. Here are some life lessons the older generations have left for teens to read and roll their eyes at.

Prepare to Cringe Gen Z as Boomers Tell Teens the Things They Aren’t Ready to Hear

People Who Walked Out on Their First Dates Discuss Their “I’m Out of Here” Moment

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Some first dates go so bad that they don’t even last five minutes. The following are the worst “I’m out of here” moments that people experienced on a first date that caused them to end abruptly.

People Who Walked Out on Their First Dates Discuss Their “I’m Out of Here” Moment

She Pretended for Years She Couldn’t Cook So She Didn’t Have to Contribute to Her In-Laws Potlucks But Now They Discovered the Lie and the Family is Up in Arms

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The original poster (OP) is married to Mike. Mike usually does all the cooking, which works best for their family. OP says she cooks sometimes but its “very few and far between.”

She Pretended for Years She Couldn’t Cook So She Didn’t Have to Contribute to Her In-Laws Potlucks But Now They Discovered the Lie and the Family is Up in Arms

Whether Parents are Responsible for Loss or Destruction of Property While Visiting Family Has Siblings in a Heated Battle After His Son Flushed a Valuable Down the Toilet

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The original poster (OP) hosted a family dinner over the weekend. Her brother brought his two sons, ages 4 and 8 with him. As cute as they may be, they got themselves into quite a bit of trouble.

Whether Parents are Responsible for Loss or Destruction of Property While Visiting Family Has Siblings in a Heated Battle After His Son Flushed a Valuable Down the Toilet

Read More: Readers Wonder if There Are Underlying Issues After Woman Goes Ballistic on Boyfriend for Eating Three-Quarters of the French Fries They Were Supposed to Share

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The original poster (OP) and her boyfriend were tired after a long day and decided to grab some fast food for dinner. But what started as an agreement on the order turned into a major conflict.

Readers Wonder if There Are Underlying Issues After Woman Goes Ballistic on Boyfriend for Eating Three-Quarters of the French Fries They Were Supposed to Share
 

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