It’s always nice to hear about siblings helping each other out in their time of need. It’s even better if arrangements can be made where both parties benefit. But often times things can go wrong, just like they did for these brothers.
His Brother Dropped Out of School
The original poster (OP) took his brother in when he dropped out of University.
His Parents Demanded Rent
His parents told his brother that he would have to pay rent if he moved back in with them.
He Offered His Brother a Deal
OP told his brother that he could live with them rent-free but would have to help with yard work and fix up the house he and his wife purchased at an auction.
His Brother Agreed
The brother agreed and provided a lot of help with the housework.
He Started Asking for Money
However, one day he started saying he should be paid for his work.
OP and His Wife Told His Brother it Was a Good Deal
OP and his wife explained that he receives free rent and food for around 20 hours of work a week, which is a perfectly fair exchange.
His Brother Wouldn’t Back Down
The brother did not back down and said that OP would have to pay a contractor more. He wanted money for going out and entertainment. OP told him to go get a job.
OP Kicked His Brother Out
The discussion ended badly, so OP kicked his brother out and moved him back to their parents’ house.
It Turns Out the Parents Were Involved
OP later found out that his brother had been complaining to their parents that he and his wife were taking advantage of him. His mother convinced him to ask for money in return for his work.
Was it a Fair Deal?
He had free rent, free food, and free utilities. Now at his parents’ house, he has to get a job to pay rent, and they don’t have fiber optic internet.
They Refused to Take Him Back
Now the brother realizes he had it good. He is asking to come back, but OP and his partner think they can handle the rest of the projects around the house. They also like having the house to themselves again.
OP Receives Reader Support
Many readers believe that OP did the right thing by moving his brother out.
“Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.”
“He had a good deal going. He could have gotten a part-time job to pay for extras. Now he has to adult, and he doesn’t like it.”
Should He Take His Brother Back?
Many readers believe OP shouldn’t take his brother back:
“Sometimes young people have to learn not to be foolish by not getting what they want. Leave him there, and if he complains about wanting to return to you, point out that he wasn’t happy with the terms you were willing to offer, and you wouldn’t want to hire somebody who wasn’t content.”
“He kinda had a good deal. And for the people doing the math. If he were a licensed and insured general contractor, he could charge more. He’d also have a lot more expenses, insurance can’t be cheap. He was also getting free food and utilities, that’s a few hundred dollars on top of the rent. He was also only working 20hrs a week. Of course, OP also benefited from his stay.
Now? He has to pay rent, which will probably require 40hrs a week. That’s ultimately good for him though, he’ll start getting real work history and maybe eventually be able to have his own place.”
Was the Mom Scheming Behind the Scenes?
Some readers believe the mom actually wanted to teach her son responsibility since he complained so much.
“Forcing him to learn responsibility by getting a job and paying for things? Sounds like she got EXACTLY what she wanted. Mothers know their sons like the backs of their hands.”
The Parents Should Have Minded Their Own Business
Overall many believe that the mom shouldn’t have gotten involved.
“It’s your home, and he’s an adult. It’s much more detrimental to coddle him and that seems like a reasonable deal. Your mom should not have got involved! That was a big boundary cross but her problem now!”
He’s the One Who Made the Decision
“He’s an adult. If he acts on bad advice, that’s on him. No one is going to give him a pass because the bad advice came from his mom.”
He Had No Disposable Income
But OP does feel a little guilty because he understands that his brother didn’t have any disposable income. He was, after all, doing work that a contractor would have charged a lot of money to complete.
He Should Have Worked Part-Time
“He was offered free room and board in exchange for helping out with projects part-time. That’s very straightforward, and left him plenty of time to get a part-time paid job for anything beyond essentials that you provided.”
Men Discuss the Unmanly Things They Do that They Aren’t Ashamed Of
There seems to be this standard of what it means to be a man and what men are allowed to do. There are things that are considered manly, and there are things that are considered more feminine which men should stay away from. Here is a list of unmanly things that men do that they aren’t ashamed of.
She Won’t Forgive Her Babysitter for Accidentally Getting Drunk on the Job But Readers are Outraged at Her Own Behavior and the Wages She’s Paying
The original poster (OP) hired a babysitter who has been watching her two children for about two months. She is only 16 years-old and OP calls her a sweet and quiet girl. But OP can’t seem to forgive a mistake that she also contributed to.
Her Sister-in-Law Makes Reservations at Expensive Restaurants and Then Conveniently Forgets Her Wallet But Now She Came Up With a Plan to Break the Habit
The original poster (OP) has a sister-in-law named Amy who likes to visit from out of town and stay with them. There is one thing she does regularly though that is really starting to bother OP and so she decided to take things into her own hands to fix the recurring problem.
She Doesn’t Want to Waste Her Inheritance But Her Husband is Expecting Her to Pay for Everything Including His Family Dinner
The original poster (OP) recently inherited a large sum of money from her mother. She hasn’t decided what to use it for yet but her husband seems to have other plans.
Famous Dead People Who are Remembered as Saints But Were Actually Sinners
Covering up crimes and repulsive behavior of famous people is a practice that has happened for decades. Many people who have died and wronged others are still treated like saints despite hearing about despicable things they have done. The following is a list of people who don’t deserve the accolades they get for their acting or activism.