Some may think smashing cake into each others faces, getting it in their eyes, hair and nose, is a hilarious and memorable moment at their wedding. But it isn’t viewed as a fun tradition by everyone. The original poster (OP) is one of those brides who isn’t in to cake smashing. This is a story of how a cake smash caused one of the shortest marriages ever to collapse.
They Have Been Together for Three Years
OP and her husband had been together for three years. She say she has never known him to be selfish, and rarely acted immature.
He Would Laugh at Cake Smash Videos
OP says the problems arose when her husband found that the cake smashing videos that were trending online were hilarious.
She Never Found Them Funny
OP says she never thought the videos were funny and her husband knew that. OP says he always showed her videos of “those poor wives getting the happiest days of their life ruined by their jerk partners for some cheap laughs.
She Was Miserable Growing Up With Cake Smashing
OP says her family has a history of cake smashing. One particular incident took place on her 17th birthday. OP recalls:
“I pleaded with my mom to not do it. She promised and I trusted her. I had my hair and makeup done up all nice and right as I blew out my candles, my mom pushed my head into the cake and one of the decorations on the cake ended up slicing my forehead. Not enough to go to the hospital, but enough for some substantial bleeding.”
They Ruined Her Birthday
OP continued to say “My birthday was ruined and after I wouldn’t come out my room. My mom still calls me a brat for that.”
She Told Him Never to Do it
OP specifically said “I told him if he ever did something like that to me I’d leave him.”
He Didn’t Take it Seriously
OP says he started laughing so she didn’t feel like he was taking her seriously.
She Was Happy on Her Wedding Day
OP says on her wedding day everything was perfect. She was happy and he was happy. She says she felt like a princess in her poofy white dress and perfect hair and makeup which were all very expensive.
She Couldn’t Believe What Happened Next
When they cut the cake, she turned to her husband and he scooped a huge chunk of cake and smashed it all over OP’s face.
He Thought it Was Funny
He laughed at OP and said “You should see your face.” Other people in the crowd, including her family were also laughing at her.
She Was Embarrassed and Left
She started to walk away and he tried to catch up with her. He said she was being “extra.” She ordered an Uber. As she went outside most of the crowd was following her and telling her to come back inside. But OP got in the Uber and drove away.
She Packed Her Things
She drove to the apartment and packed most of her things and went to stay at a hotel. She is now staying with a friend.
She Received A Lot of Messages
OP says her family and his family have been messaging her for days, telling her she is being childish and her husband is a good man who was just joking.
Her Husband Has Been Calling
Her husband has been calling her like crazy, asking her to come home to talk. He said he was sorry and didn’t think she would get “emotional.”
He Wasted Money and Embarrassed Her
OP feels like it was supposed to be the happiest day of their lives and he embarrassed her in front of everyone for a prank he knew that she hated. OP says he also ruined a $500 cake, her makeup, her hair and the top of her dress. The cake was all over everything.
Was She Too Hard on Him?
She says she still loves him and is wondering if she was too hard on him?
The Readers Respond
The popular opinion was that OP was right and this cake smash was probably a blessing in disguise as it was the push she needed to get out. It shows a major lack of respect for a partner who explicitly said they didn’t want to participate in it.
“It’s not really about the cake. It’s about mutual respect. He didn’t respect her wishes. He thought his opinion was all that mattered. The cake smashing thing works if both partners know that the other person will be okay with it. It obviously doesn’t work if either of them is not okay with it. And it’s rightfully relationship-ending if one partner knows that the other is not okay with it and does it anyways.”
Did She Miss Red Flags?
Many believe that because of the abuse she received in her childhood that she missed the red flags in the relationship.
“The stuff from her mom is so illuminating. No wonder she didn’t see the red flags on this guy, she’s been living with red flags her whole life.”
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