The original poster (OP) recently got married (she refers to him as J) and feels like she had the perfect wedding. But one thing went wrong and she’s wondering if she should have done something different.
She Married Her Love
OP married the love of her life and had a wonderful wedding.
One Thing Went Wrong
There was one problem, her mother-in-law freaked out when she saw OP’s wedding dress.
They Shopped Together
OP had invited her mother-in-law to dress shop so she was there when OP found her perfect dress.
They Have a Family Tradition
Her husband’s family has a family tradition of always wearing blush dresses on their wedding day.
They Discussed this Before
OP says they told her about the blush pink tradition before but she respectfully said she would wear whatever color dress her ‘perfect’ dress came in.
She Liked a White Dress
Once she picked her dress, her mother-in-law asked her if they could alter it to make it blush, or for OP to find a new dress if they couldn’t.
She Said She Would Ask
OP said she would ask if they could alter the color, but if they couldn’t then she would be keeping it.
She Wore Her Dress
They couldn’t alter her dress color so she wore a white wedding dress to the ceremony.
Her Mother-in-Law Was Angry
OP says her mother-in-law was seething during the ceremony. At the reception she pulled OP aside and asked her why her dress was white.
She Told Her They Couldn’t Alter It
OP told her mother-in-law that they couldn’t alter the dress color and she didn’t want to find a new dress.
Her Husband Was Also Disappointed
The mother-in-law said it was a family tradition and she was upset that OP broke it. OP’s husband also said he was disappointed when OP walked down the aisle in a white dress.
Was She Wrong?
OP is now wondering if she should have just bought a different dress in the color blush.
The Readers Respond
Many readers were angry about how her husband said he was disappointed when he saw her walking down the aisle in a white dress.
“Wow. What a memory to have of your wedding day.”
“How superficial is this guy (and his mom, too)?”
Who Gets That Upset Over a Dress Color?
“I mean really. They were that upset about the color of her dress? Why does this dumb tradition mean so much to them that MIL and husband would ruin the wedding for themselves over it?”
Why Didn’t He Wear Blush?
“If his family has a tradition of wearing blush and it’s that damn important. He should’ve stepped up, worn blush and upheld it. Who says family tradition can’t have a little twist?”
What about Her Family Tradition?
Apparently was tradition for HIS family but seems nobody cared about what was tradition for HER family! At the end if the day the two who are being married are the only ones who should be dictating what they want their wedding to consist of, including the attire.”
Is Her Mother-in-Law Too Controlling?
One reader has some advice for OP:
“OP, I’ve been married over 20 years. I’ve seen a lot. Your mother in law is going to ruin you. She is over bearing and thinks it’s her way or the highway and she willingly and happily ruins important moments to regain control. Your husband not only permits her to but he happily partakes. Please think long and hard about whether this is how you want to sorbs your life. Their traditions do not trump your feelings and certainly do not give them a pass to treat you like trash.”
Is it a Red Flag?
“The fact that J didn’t tell his mom to butt out the minute she started telling his fiancee what to wear on her wedding day is such a red flag. This feels like it’s going to turn into, and the moment he told me he was disappointed was the moment I started thinking about an annulment. Cause phew.”
“My first thought was definitely “OP should get an annulment but save the dress and wear it for her wedding with a guy that think she’s beautiful in her wedding dress and loves and supports her no matter what she’s wearing.”
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